I promise there’s more to her than meets the eye.
For any guy who thinks he’s falling for a girl who tends to be a little on the anxious side, just know that it’s going to be different than any girl you’ve loved before. She is going to be a little, or a lot, more guarded. She’ll scare easier. She’s going to have a hard time trusting you, but it doesn’t mean she doesn’t care.
Just know that she’s going to play tough. She’ll come off as confident and resilient, the type of person who knows how to get what she wants. She wants everyone to think she’s strong, but don’t be fooled so easily. When she realizes you can see through the show she puts on, it’ll scare her. The first time she breaks down and shows you what’s really going on inside her head, it’s going to be confusing. It’s going to be so different from the side of her that you’ve seen before, and it’s going to catch you off guard. But if her tears and her embarrassment and her mind running a million miles a minute isn’t something you can handle, please leave. Don’t stick around and make her think you’ll be there for her if you won’t.
If you choose to stick around, it won’t always be easy. As badly as I know you’re going to want to, you can’t just swoop in and save her from her past. She’s been through a lot and it has affected her in ways you’ll never be able to understand. You’re going to try to kiss away her pain and her scars and all of her bad memories, but there will be times when you crawl into bed with her at 2 am after a long night and she’s going to be in another world. No matter how hard you try, you won’t be able to reach her, and that’s okay. Sometimes she’ll do that. She’s just scared that if she explains what’s going on in her head, all her doubts and fears, that you’ll run away just like the guys before you did.
The best thing you can do in the world, is to make her feel safe. When she’s quiet, wrap your arms around her. When she’s so stressed out that she can’t form sentences correctly and those little worry lines form on her forehead, kiss her on the top of the head and tell her that you’re there for her. Tell her that you understand, that she doesn’t need to explain herself, and that it’s going to be okay. You’d be surprised by how much she really needs to hear those words, and hearing them from you will make a world of difference.
I know it’s gonna be hard to love her, but I can promise you one thing. If you stick around, if you learn to love her little freak out moments about things that seem incredibly inconsequential, if you let her be herself and you learn how to handle her incessant worrying; it will change your life. Yes, she’ll teach you patience and kindness like you’ve never known. But once she knows that she can trust you, she’ll show you a kind of love and understanding like you’ve never seen, and will likely never see again. When you break down her walls, she will do the same for you. You’ll never have to explain yourself to her, and she will always be your #1 fan. She will be caring, compassionate, and faithful to a fault. So although I know it may not seem worth it when she’s crying and you can’t do anything to help, or when she’s been freaking out for four hours over something that makes no sense to you, but I can promise you that loving a girl with anxiety will change your world for the better.